Thursday, May 20, 2010

DoYou Love It?

When talking with women, of all ages, I frequently get the question on if I stay at home with Brayden. I gladly respond "yes," and then without fail, I get, "Do you just LOVE it?" And I type that with the fruity, southern, hand over your heart type of "do you love it" type of question. When you think about it, it's really an awkward question to answer. I mean, what are you supposed to respond? If I clasp MY hand over MY heart, and then bend down and give Eskimo kisses on the nose of B and say "Oh yes, it's the best thing since sliced bread!", then some, if not most women, would laugh on the inside, knowing I was probably lying. On the contrary, if I respond with "well, actually I don't really enjoy it that much," then I'd probably have women who think that I am ungrateful and hate my child. I hate the question because I am one of those people who likes to answer honestly. You won't find me answering "I'm fine" when someone asks how I am doing and my life is turned upside down. And honestly, I think the honest answers take people aback. Our society is so used to the generic "I'm fine" or "it's great", that when someone answers honestly we just sit there in shock and awe.Usually my answer is, "yes, I love staying home. It's a definite blessing, and we give up ALOT so that I can stay home. It's the hardest job I've ever had. But it's worth it!" And that's my honest answer.
There are days where I covet the woman who is able to break away from her kids and do things that challenge a different part of the brain when she goes to work. Where she is able to talk to other adults (in real life, not on message boards or blogs), and actually makes money for what she does, and is able to afford some of the luxuries of life, like Starbucks, eating out and babysitting. But then I think of what I would be missing. My days are predictable, yet they really aren't. I never know what the little man will learn next, when he will crawl to me just to give me a slobbery kiss, clap when I give him mac and cheese, and laugh at me when I laugh.
Being a stay at home mom is just like every other job out there. You have your highs and lows. You have your days where you want to throw in the towel, but some part of you holds on for a better day tomorrow. And then you have the days where you couldn't imagine yourself doing anything else. So, yes. I love it. But that's just the short answer. :)

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